A better world needs to start somewhere, and there is no easier place to begin the work than in our hearts and minds. - Daniele Bolelli
In fact, you too have probably come to recognize just how much it seems as though our lives move through various stages. As we go through each one of these stages, I believe that we are constantly being given a chance to develop a variety of survival skills that are needed in order for us to press on and learn how to effectively handle the unique adventure that we are encountering at any given time.
As your lives continues to unfold, indeed there will be some common experiences or events that may lead us to fear that we will be overtaken by anxiety, confusion, depression, despair, grief, loneliness, pain, sadness or other negative feelings and thoughts. In such instances, it is tremendously important for someone like DJ or you or I to remain aware that no matter the circumstances there are always hidden treasures that exist both within and outside of us that we are at liberty to draw upon. The combined actions of stepping outside of yourself for a moment along with giving yourself some kindness can help to put your present personal experience into greater perspective. These and other options when put to constructive use will better facilitate calmly coping with our circumstances, regaining our composure, and over the long-term equip us in developing an increased level of resilience.
Even when a good friend or helpful family member is not available you can begin to take better control of the situation by very carefully exploring your 'self-talk'. This often leads to the identification of what is at the root of one's overriding suicidal thinking. In DJ's particular case, his recurring thoughts centered around the loss of his girlfriend and access to their child. This undesired change created within his mind and heart a strong and persistent feeling of failure as a man and a sense of worthlessness as a human being.
With highly-skilled and regular assistance, DJ could be shown how some of his thoughts were really quite natural in light of the serious nature of his situation but that they need not be permitted to become oppressive and permanent. There are lots of other people who have experienced what DJ is now facing and yet most of them were able to successfully find a reasonable and lasting way through their ordeal. Given adequate time, I believe that DJ will be capable of doing so as well.