Our lives are mostly made up of a series of repeated habits.
These habits can be positive or negative, and fortunately, can be
changed.
Changing a habit is theoretically simple, it’s sticking to it that can be tough. Basically, the steps of changing a habit are:
- Write down your plan.
- Identify your triggers and replacement habits.
- Focus on doing the replacement habits every single time the triggers happen, for about 30 days.
1. Do just one habit at a time. Extremely important.
Habit change is difficult, even with just one habit. If you do more
than one habit at a time, you’re setting yourself up for failure. Keep
it simple, allow yourself to focus, and give yourself the best chance
for success. Btw, this is why New Year’s resolutions often fail — people
try to tackle more than one change at a time.
2. Write it down. Just saying you’re going to change
the habit is not enough of a commitment. You need to actually write it
down, on paper. Write what habit you’re going to change.
3. Know your motivations, and be sure they’re strong.
Write them down in your plan. You have to be very clear why you’re
doing this, and the benefits of doing it need to be clear in your head.
If you’re just doing it for vanity, while that can be a good motivator,
it’s not usually enough. We need something stronger.
4. Identify your triggers. What situations trigger
your current habit? For the smoking habit, for example, triggers might
include waking in the morning, having coffee, drinking alcohol,
stressful meetings, going out with friends, driving, etc. Most habits
have multiple triggers. Identify all of them and write them in your
plan.
5. For every single trigger, identify a positive habit you’re going to do instead.
When you first wake in the morning, instead of smoking, what will you
do? What about when you get stressed? When you go out with friends? Some
positive habits could include: exercise, meditation, deep breathing,
organizing, decluttering, and more.
6. Stay positive. You will have negative thoughts —
the important thing is to realize when you’re having them, and push them
out of your head. Squash them like a bug! Then replace them with a
positive thought. “I can do this! If Leo can do it, so can I!” 
7. Have rewards. Regular ones. You might see these
as bribes, but actually they’re just positive feedback. Put these into
your plan, along with the milestones at which you’ll receive them.
8. Set up public accountability. Blog about it, post
on a forum, email your commitment and daily progress to friend and
family, post a chart up at your office, Facebook it, Tweet it. When we
make it public — not just the commitment but the progress updates — we
don’t want to fail.
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